Marriage Readiness

How to Tell If You're Ready for Marriage

Are you in touch with your feelings?
Can you live with yourself? (Can you be alone and enjoy it (autonomy); can you accept and be happy with your identity?)
Can you communicate your needs? (Can you own you needs, do people know what you want, or do they have to guess?)
Can you face your problems instead of blaming them on somebody else?
Can you see you future mate as he/she really is (not idealizing them)? Can this person meet your needs, or do you need something so desperately you can't see straight. (A spouse should not be expected to provide a person what he/she did not get from parents.
Can you really share, give and take (healthy interdependence), rather than too dependent or too independent?
Are you aware of the influence your family or origin may have had on you and your expectations (fears and desires) about marriage, about your mate, roles in the marriage?
Can you trust and accept yourself and others?
Are you willing to work at sharing, compromising, and managing inevitable differences?

(Adapted from The marriage Gap by Stanley Rosner and Laura Hobe)

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